Frequently Asked Questions and their Answers
General Questions
How do I book?
Full step by step instructions on how to book are here.
Are there any age restrictions?
We see anybody within the ages of 18 years old to 60 and may ask for ID if necessary, especially if you’re lucky enough to look under 25.
I have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it, is this the same?
We do not offer Tantric massage, however it is similar in that it is giving you the opportunity to explore your sexuality and sensuality safely and discreetly. Our approach focuses on sexual health and intimacy issues rather than being overly spiritual. The bodywork is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensual, sexual arousal and does not include any spiritual ceremony or focus on ‘energies’. We help you relax with some work on breathing techniques.
How can I be sure you won’t do something I don’t want or like?
We always ask clients to complete an Authorisation & Requests Form before giving the first appointment. This enables you to create the experience you want, including what type and what intensity of arousal you like to experience. It also enables you to identify any cautious area of exploration or complete “no go areas”.
How confidential is this?
Totally and completely. We see people who are in very public sensitive jobs, who are married, well known or come from a culture that has strong rules around sexuality. To contact you and to keep you and us safe, we will need some personal information as you would need to give for any normal massage treatment or therapy session, including name, email, mobile number. Your information will not be disclosed to third parties unless there is a matter of health and safety or gross breach of contract. We will in no case disclose any personal issues, what you tell us in the treatment room, stays in the treatment room unless we believe you are a serious risk to yourself or others.
Questions about the intimate and erotic content of my treatment
If wanted will you undress and shower me before the treatment?
We leave you to shower and undress privately.
Do you give skin to skin contact?
Yes, we do give some unless requested not to. The treatment involves some body to body contact since as well as using our hands, we also use arms, elbows and if appropriate body weight, but this can be adjusted to suit your comfort.
Are you naked for the treatment?
No, we are fully clothed as the session is about you.
Can I touch you during the treatment?
We suggest you concentrate on your own sensations without trying to give pleasure back. We all need chance to explore our own bodies and not be distracted by two-way touch. We do understand that tactile sensations can be big part of arousal and are usually comfortable with gentle touch on some areas of the body externally at our discretion (hand), but we will guide you during the session if and when we think this is appropriate. Again, this is always your choice and can be made at the time of the treatment. Please note that the therapists’ consent should not be assumed, always ask before touching anyone.
Can I arouse you?
The treatments we give are therapeutic and give you chance to have some you time without reciprocating. No, you will not be able to arouse your therapist.
Do you kiss during the treatment or give or receive oral stimulation?
No, we do not kiss and do not give or receive oral. Please do not ask, as these requests make it uncomfortable for us both.
How is the vaginal stimulation given?
The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Requests Form. Clitoral stimulation is given earlier in the treatment with the external vaginal stimulation, and internal vaginal stimulation (if requested) comes later. The depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation is guided by you, but we aim to follow your responses as the treatment progresses.
I make quite a bit of noise when I am turned on, is that a problem?
Not at all. People are programmed to make noise when aroused, it is our mating call. We encourage you to be as verbal as you want and to express your pleasure in any way you want. As your therapist, we respond to making it as good for you as we can. The more you respond the more we can confidently give and advise.
Is anal stimulation optional?
Again, this can be indicated on the Authorisation & Requests Form as to it being wanted, external only or internal. We often find that once the arousal has heightened, sometimes exploration in this area is wanted, but are always guided by your responses.
Will you use any toys or vibrators on me?
This is your choice, and we do have several toys, but only bring them into the treatment if the client has requested the use of them. You’re very welcome to bring your own.
Can I orgasm more than once?
Orgasm isn’t the focus of the treatment; the intimacy and sensations are. Most people will benefit from building up to one more intense climax rather than multiple smaller ones; for people with a penis, sometimes a prostate orgasm and a regular orgasm are possible, and for people with a vulva, multiple orgasm is more common. If you are worried about ejaculating prematurely, we can almost guarantee that you won’t, and we can work on lasting longer over a series of treatments.
Can I have full penetrative sex if I felt I wanted this?
This is not something we offer - do not ask, as these requests make it uncomfortable for us both and we may ask you to leave with no refund. If you feel this is needed as part of your treatment, we can discuss your options with regards to finding somebody that offers full sexual services.
Can you include any fetish or role play?
Fetishes can be an important part of arousal for many but not something we focus on within our sessions and usually isn’t important to our treatments. We don’t take requests for specific dress, i.e. stockings. I can suggest a fantastic local dominatrix if you are searching for someone who comes recommended.
Other Questions
Do I need to pay a booking fee/deposit?
For all face to face appointments we do require a non-refundable booking fee of £60 to be paid when making the booking request. This ensures your authenticity, our safety and covers my time should you change your mind and cancel altogether. We are a small business and last minute cancellations really affect our livelihood. We do not take this fee in cash and there are no exceptions to who pays.
For phone and video calls, the full fee is due on booking and 50% of this is used as a non-refundable booking fee as per cancellation terms.
Do I get a refund of my booking fee if I cancel?
We do not give refunds for cancellations, but are happy to keep it held on account and then re allocate the fee to another appointment if you give more than 24 hours’ notice for a booking cancellation. Any less than 24 hours – under any circumstance – does not give me enough time to re-fill that appointment slot. Please see our Terms and Policies for full information.
Can I arrive early?
No, please arrive at the time you have booked the start of the appointment. As much as arriving ten minutes early might seem helpful, that may be time where I am setting up a lovely treatment space for you.
What if I am running late?
Just send your therapist a text or email to keep us informed, as we may have to adjust later appointments. 5 or 10 minutes is understandable but any longer and we may have to shorten your appointment time.
What if I need to cancel?
Please give us as much notice as possible, 24 hours if you would like your booking fee transferring to another appointment, as we do rely on business going through. Any cancellation of less than 2 hours notice is classed as a no-show and will be charged in full. We understand life can be unpredictable so if you do have to cancel, please do send your therapist a text or email.
Can I take a shower?
Please take a shower at home but if you have not/are not able to shower within one hour before arriving for the appointment, then we ask you to take a full body shower before receiving the treatment. If needed, you are also welcome to take another shower following the treatment. There is a small extra charge for using the shower facilities.
If I enjoy the experience can I come back for regular appointments at a discount?
Yes, we offer series of 3 appointments at a 10% discount if paid in advance, or 6 appointments at a 15% discount if paid in advance.